concerned asked:


My ex wife and have a custody agreement that was made before a judge over a year ago. This weekend is my weekend to see them and she wont let me see them. The magistrate states that I will have to go to my lawyer Monday and file some type of paper work. What will happen to her for violating the custody agreement?

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Brian Williams asked:


Every divorce that occurs needs to be recorded with the vital records office and this information is available to the general public as a divorce record. A personal copy of the divorce record is a divorce certificate that can be used by the individual as a legal document in all matters concerning the divorce.

Divorce records are maintained by the vital records department or in the health statistics department. Any person wishing to access these records may do so by placing a request with the concerned department holding the information. They can also obtain copies of the records which are uncertified copies if you are not one of the concerned parties in the divorce. Only concerned parties in the divorce can obtain a certified copy of the divorce certificate.

The divorce record contains vital information about the divorce such as date on which the divorce was finalized and why the divorce occurred. It also has other pertinent information such as names of the couple, the date when their marriage took place, the location where the marriage happened, the date of birth and the names of the children, if any, etc. It may also list other information such as the divorce settlements, the payment of alimony or maintenance, if any.

The Uses of Divorce Records

The divorce record is an important proof of information that the divorce has taken place. This is useful for the individual parties involved in the divorce to prove the divorce and can be of utility in many areas.

These records can help the individual ensure that the divorce has legally occurred. In many cases of uncontested divorces, the respondent party may not be aware of the settlement of the divorce. A divorce record helps in proving that the divorce has been finalized in the Court of Law.

When a person intends to marry again after a divorce, the divorce certificates should be provided to legally allow the person to remarry. It also helps resolve issues arising in the care of children born out of the marriage where divorce has taken place. A woman intending to change her name that carries the surname of the ex-husband can do so by providing these records.

Another important use of divorce records is searching the names of the current partners on websites that allow search of these records. This is useful in knowing more about the previous history of the person.

If the person has been involved in a divorce, it helps in knowing whether the divorce was finalized and what were the terms of the settlement. It also helps to know the reasons behind the divorce and can avoid many a future unpleasant scenarios by knowing if the partner was involved in problems like child abuse or had a history of domestic violence.



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Andrew Tenco asked:


Many don’t want to admit this, but divorce might be the only option for a healthy lifestyle. There are many things that go into the decision of whether to get a divorce or not. Since a divorce can have far-reaching effects on your life, it’s important to find out what a divorce can involve before you make your decision. We wish to cover some of the worries you may have regarding divorce and its negative effects.

My spouse has filed for divorce. Can I oppose it?

You can oppose the idea of it, but you cannot stop the proceedings from continuing. Once a spouse has filed for divorce, the other spouse is forced to comply with the filing. The best recourse when your spouse files for divorce is to get a divorce lawyer so you can be sure that your rights are protected immediately. In the United States and Canada, a divorce will be granted even if one spouse files and the other refuses to participate or even acknowledge the proceedings. In most states, there is the “no fault” rule, which means that you can get divorced for any reason. In this situation, your spouse can simply state “irreconcilable differences” and the divorce proceedings can get underway.

What is the process for filing for divorce?

File for divorce without letting your spouse know by heading to the courthouse and filling out all the required paperwork correctly. It’s best to hire an attorney to file the papers for you if you want to ensure that it is done right. If you are afraid of what your spouse might do, the whole procedure can be dealt with without their knowledge until papers are served to them. If your spouse is temperamental, this may be your best choice so that you can be away from home when he/she is served with papers, avoiding any immediate disputes.

Where can I find state-specific information about laws and statutes?

The best and most reputable place to find state-specific information about divorces is at your local divorce attorney’s office. They have been through divorce proceedings and they have a great deal of experience with divorces in your state. You might also be able to find forms and regulations online. If you visit your state’s official website, they might have links to divorce laws and regulations for your state. Most times, there is a small fee to download the forms needed to file for divorce in your state. Be careful, though. Make sure the website you get your information from is a reputable site.

My divorce will be official in a matter of weeks. Can my spouse legally get married again before the divorce is final?

Yes, in a purely technical sense. It is against the law for a person to be married to two or more people at the same time. Marrying someone else is a violation of bigamy laws in many states until your divorce is finalized. This is only a technicality, though. Most of the time, the court will not consider a second marriage as disregarding the law. While you can file suit against your spouse for breaking bigamy laws if they are getting married prior to the finalization of your divorce, this will usually be an exercise in futility since lawyers and the legal system in general usually do not pursue these cases.

I have just filed for divorce. How long will it be before it is final?

If you have filed for an uncontested divorce, the entire ordeal can be over in a matter of a few weeks. If you have a disputable divorce, on the other had, it could be quite awhile before the divorce is officially final. If you have children together, some states require a waiting period before actually filing the divorce papers. The court’s schedule also plays a major role in how long the divorce will take. If they have many cases to go through, you may be waiting awhile. If you talk to the court clerk, they might be able to give you an idea about how long it will be. Your divorce attorney will also have more information to give you a better idea.



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Clint Jhonson asked:


The rate of divorces has increased drastically in recent years, not just in Australia but in many parts of the world. This is due to many reasons but most will agree that the change to no-fault divorces has increased the rate of divorce. Whereas years ago, couples had to prove the their spouse was “unfit” or did something wrong, with a no-fault divorce couples can obtain a divorce by merely stating they no longer wish to be married. Regardless of the reason a couple chooses to get a divorce, it’s in their best interest to find a good divorce lawyer.

Australia has very clear and relatively easy-to-satisfy divorce laws. The only requirements are that you be domiciled in Australia, be an Australian citizen or an Australian resident for at least 12 months. If you meet these requirements, and have been separated from your spouse for at least 12 months, you can file for a divorce in Australia. In certain cases, the spouses are not required to attend their court hearing. One of these situations is if there are no children under the age of 18. If you do have children under the age of 18, and both you and your spouse sign a joint divorce application, you will not need to make a court appearance unless the court waives this requirement for some reason.

In spite of how easy it is to obtain a divorce in Australia, it will still be beneficial for you to have a divorce lawyer, particularly if minor children and/or property are involved. A good divorce lawyer can help you with separation, divorce, property settlement, child custody, maintenance and defacto property settlement. Occasionally, a couple will choose to handle a divorce themselves without the assistance of a divorce lawyer. This is not recommended unless there are no children or assets and both spouses are in full agreement of the simplicity of the divorce. In all other cases, a divorce lawyer is highly recommended to help stand up for your rights regarding the many issues involving family law and divorce.

Australia has made every effort to make divorce as easy, inexpensive and pain free as possible for the couple by requiring the using of arbitration in divorce cases. The private arbitration system for divorces was implemented by the federal Attorney-General of Australia to help eliminate the many disputes brought on by divorce.  Divorce lawyers authorized by the courts will handle the arbitration. The couples seeking the divorce can choose their own divorce lawyer from the court-appointed list. The main purpose of the arbitration is to help resolve money issues. Arbitrators, however, have no authority to rule on disputes involving child custody.

Many people confuse arbitration with mediation or believe they are the same thing when they are actually quite different. A good divorce lawyer can explain the divorce an assist you with your needs during your divorce proceedings. A mediator cannot make a decision for or against a wife or husband but is there to listen to both sides and offer suggestions on how they can both compromise to come to an agreeable solution. If the couple cannot come to an agreement, the job of the mediator is over and an arbitrator is brought into the case. In some cases, however, the mediator is asked to come to a decision for the couple, although this is not recommended because it’s often difficult for a mediator to suddenly switch roles and become an arbitrator.

Arbitrators are divorce lawyers set by the court and can set their own fees, which can often be quite expensive. Couples have the choice of choosing their own arbitrator if they’re not happy with the one chosen by the court. A divorce can be a small matter between two individuals but can also be a huge court case involving a couple, their children and jointly owned property. In such a case, you will want a good divorce lawyer. You will want to make sure you have a lawyer that is experienced enough to help you in your divorce. Because there are many circumstances in divorces, you may need a checklist of questions for your divorce lawyer to help ensure you are getting the best possible divorce lawyer for your needs, some of which may include:

1.    How many divorces have they handled? You do not want a divorce lawyer with little or no experience in divorces. Unless they’ve actually handled a divorce, they’re not going to know what to expect or if there courts lean towards any certain trends.

2.    What is their specialty in divorces? Although some divorces may be simple, some involve property settlements, custody battles, child support, maintenance, etc. You’ll need to know your divorce lawyer has experience that will meet your needs.

3.    What kind of reputation do they have in divorce cases? You may notice in divorces of wealthy couples, women seeking large settlements often seek the same divorce lawyer or couples seeking custody will use divorce lawyers that are successful in these issues. Find out what your divorce lawyer’s success rate is.

4.    What are the costs? The cost of divorce can be as low as hundreds (doing it yourself) and as high as thousands of dollars. Have your divorce lawyer explain what the expenses will be. Find out if there are any expenses that can be lessened or eliminated without hurting your case.

5.    How many arbitrations have they been involved in? If they are a court-appointed arbitrator, as is customary in Australia divorce cases, they’ve probably been in arbitrations before. Find out how many and how they resulted.

6.    What type of arbitrations has your divorce lawyer been involved in? If you suspect your divorce is going to become a nasty fight for custody, you want a divorce lawyer that’s experienced and successful in child custody cases.

7.    What does your divorce lawyer hope to accomplish in your divorce? Have him explain the most and least he hopes to get for you. Don’t be afraid to compare divorce lawyers if you don’t feel the first one you see can help you.

8.    If asked, would your divorce lawyer be willing to work as an arbitrator and mediator? The answer you get from your lawyer may determine if he’s the right divorce lawyer for you.



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Chris Okafor asked:




FAILED MARRIAGES: ONE DIVORCE, TOO MANY. BY CHRIS OKAFOR

Marriage is an act of joining a man and a woman together in a holy matrimony as husband and a wife. It often calls for fun fares, weddings, celebrations and conviviality.

People spend a lot of money in planning for these big occasions and sometimes end it up cruising around the world on honeymoon. The couples had, without doubt, in church and in present of a Reverend Father, vowed to be faithful and to love one another until death do them apart. To most people who had partaken in this vow, it must be upheld with respect and dignity at all times. They sees marriage as a sacrament while to many, there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying “I do” today and within the next 4 months, it is all over.

This school of thoughts viewed the entire institution of marriage as “free-entry-free exit” kind of a contact. It doesn’t matter if their well publicised and celebrated marriage would come to a halt within months of its inception.

On the other hand, divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of marriage or marital vow before the death of either spouse. It can be contrasted with annulment, which is a declaration that marriage is void, though the effect maybe recognised in such unions such as spousal supports, child custody and distribution of property.

The problem of failed marriages and divorce around the world particularly Europe and America is so enormous and inexplicable especially when there is no basis to determine necessary or sufficient causation. It is, indeed, a social problem with a hereditary attachment of which many are completely ignorant of and never believe in existence of the following concept which I am going to outline here. When one decides to put an end to his/her marriage on a mere provocation and on issues that ought to be resolved amicably, you have no moral justification to tell your children in future that there is anything wrong with divorce or having children with different parents.

In Nigeria, for instance, there are some ethnic groups that advise their male children never to marry from a single parent or a broken home. The ironic reasons are palpable. They believed that marriage is all about tolerance and the woman being ********** to their chosen husband at all time and therefore no amount of disagreement between couples that would warrant a woman to abscond from home. In most cases, men reserve the exclusive right to send their wives out of their matrimonial home on the ground of infidelity and promiscuity.

Women are normally the victim and in contrast, because of male dominance, cultural and religious affiliations, it is customary for people in most African countries to come back home from their respective daily activities and announce to their wives that they are marrying the second or the third wife as the case may be without questioning. They have the sole right as well to have as many girlfriend(s) as it pleases them or go out and come back at will.

In fact, it is not only a taboo but it is also an abomination for average African woman to go out like their European or American counterparts, get drunk and have a one night stand that often lead to pregnancies. Such women would possibly be disgraced before their children and sent packing from home without compassion of any kind.

This is liken to ” if you cannot stand the heat get out of the kitchen” kind of marriage which have been viewed in some quarters as some kind of slavery. The truth of the matter is that some of these women knew what it meant to them for their children to be jointly raised and as such, they choose to stand the heat rather than getting out of the kitchen. The respect to their chosen husbands, no matter what he does or did is total and it is fundamentally important that they do not bring shame to their respective family no matter how wretched, poor or rich that family may be.

Recent research has shown that the evolution of marriage has taken place despite an increased life expectancy that has theoretically made a longer and healthier life together as a couple possible. Although in the past, the death of one of the two spouses was the typical end of marriage, divorce is now the most frequently observed cause.

In Switzerland, for example, the number of newly divorced residents actually exceeded the number of newly widowed residents in 1988 (OFS, 1990).

This is a relatively recent phenomenon, having existing for less than half a century and even less in some countries where it was forbidden or severely restricted until very recently (The mid 1970s in Portugal and Italy, 1981 in Spain, and not until 1997 in Ireland). Divorce is not only a legal instrument freeing a couple from wedlock, but an act that is at the heart of familial and social processes.

To understand the rise in the number of divorces in various countries, one must first understand the reasons causing couples to marry. France, Italy, Sweden, and Switzerland are representative of the diversity of marital and familial situations existing in Europe.

What we see sometimes in American reality television is an eye saw. An unacceptable situation where one is married and within 3 months, the man is sleeping with his wife mother. There is no basis of comparison between African marriages and other people around the world because what they see as a way of life is completely forbidden in Africa. Again, most people see this as being totally primitive.

It is difficult for average women in Europe generally to stick to their marriage when they eventually realized that their husbands are cheating on them. That would invariably be the last straw and would be used as an affront to divorce in which they would be beneficiary to their husband’s stupendous wealth and without recourse to how such separation would affect their children.

The ratio is 1 out of every hundred and we have seen this ratio at work sometime ago when a footballer wife defiantly resisted their former assistant shameless confession in order to thwart her marriage. She chooses to stand firmly by her husband throughout the trying period. In United States, during Bill Clinton era, a similar newspaper unconfirmed report between Bill and a Monica Lewinski almost ruin the marriage between the then president and his wife. Again, the latter choose to remain with the husband rather than divorce.

This is just one in a million and like a reoccurring decimal, one hardly turns the pages of newspapers these days without reading about ones divorce or the other. There are countless number of lawyers placing adverts on newspapers and magazines for cheap divorce rates.

Today, one of the primary reasons why most celebrities cannot marry is that they are not ready to let what they have laboured all their entire life to be given to a nitwit in the name of divorce settlement .It is quite obvious that people go into marriage for number of reasons while some people, most especially women, go into marriage for the financial gains not really because they needed a family.

According to Jenny Burley and Francis Regan, the Irish story of family law reform in the post-second world war era is quite different from the experience of other countries. One of the main reasons why the story is different is that from 1937 divorce was banned under the Irish constitution. Divorce law reform therefore required a referendum to change the constitution. Even though there were thousand of separated people in Ireland in early 1980s, the proposal to introduce divorce was vociferously opposed in referenda in 1986 and 1995.

The opposition to constitutional change was fuelled by anti-divorce campaigns which used fear tactics, related to money, children, property and inheritance to argue that divorce would tear apart the very fabric of Irish society. The campaign also claimed that divorce would open floodgates to marriage breakdown. The availability of this divorce in Ireland since 1997 has not, however, borne out of dire predictions of the anti-divorce campaigners.

Successful and failed marriages have its origin and background from family circles and some people has argued that it would take a divine intervention for the products of broken homes to triumph where their parents have failed. This is simple. Children learn a great deal from the good and the bad we do at home.

What are responsible for most ignominious exit in most marriages particularly from most women are sheer greed, drink and drugs, insatiable lust and lack of tolerance, which unavoidably, is contributing immensely to the drastic decadence in family and societal values.

The devastating effects of divorce on children and families are enormous. Research made by Dr.Todd.E Linaman on families noted the following:

Future effects of divorce

• Children deal with the effects of divorce not only as children, but into adulthood. The effects of divorce will impact the next generation of children as well.

• The child’s suffering from the effects of divorce does not reach its peak at the time of the divorce and then level off. Rather, the emotional effects of divorce can be played and replayed throughout a child’s life.

Academic effects of divorce

• Children from divorced families drop out of school at twice the rate of children from intact families, and they have lower rates of graduation from high school and college.

• Children from divorced homes performed more poorly in reading, spelling, and math and repeated a grade more frequently than did children not facing the effects of divorce.

Social effects of divorce

• Children of divorced parents are significantly more likely to become delinquent by age 15, regardless of when the divorce took place, than are children not dealing with the effects of divorce.

• The single best predictor of teen ******* is parental divorce and living in a single-parent household.

• Comparing all family structures, drug use in children is lowest among children not facing the effects of divorce.

Emotional effects of divorce

• Divorce has been found to be associated with a higher incidence of depression; withdrawal from friends and family; aggressive, impulsive, or hyperactive behavior; and either withdrawing from participation in the classroom or becoming disruptive.

• Adult children of divorced parents experience mental health problems significantly more often than do the adult children who didn’t witness the effects of divorce as children.

Relational effects of divorce

• After divorce, children tend to become more emotionally distant from both parents.

• As adults, children of divorced parents are half as likely to be close to their parents as are children not dealing with the effects of divorce.

• In their own marriages, children of divorced parents are more likely to be unhappy, to escalate conflicts, and to reduce communication with their spouses.

• Some studies concerning the probability of divorce for children of divorced parents have found the risk to be more than twice the risk for children who haven’t personally experienced the effects of divorce.

This is just one of the numerous factors affecting divorce on families and the list is endless. One thing about people that I have met in my life is that they do not realize the impact of the mistake they must have made in terms of making a decision that would ultimately shape their life until such mistake begin to hit them. It is, however important amidst these factors that we should think very carefully before considering divorce.

Chris Okafor

Galway Ireland: chrisokafor@myself.com



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Frank Miller asked:


A Florida divorce is generally little more than a simple ecclesiastical issue. By the time you have made the concluding to get a online Florida divorce, the marriage has ended, and all that retains is to take care of the legal ties. Terminating the legal ties often includes splitting up any property from the marriage or just identifying the separate property of both the parties. Evidently spelling out who is to do what, when, and under what terms and circumstances, eases the general stress of a divorce, leaving less to be ‘argued’ over.

Florida Divorce Guidelines

Mail In Filing

In Florida, many countries allow parties to mail forms into the courthouse for filing an online Florida divorce. This practice varies from country to country. Explicit, simple instructions regarding completing this process are provided by The Florida Online Divorce services by many good online divorce firms. Some Florida Courts will not accept mail in filing, and some cases may not be suitable for mail in filing in any country.

How Long Will It Take?

The use of the Florida Online Divorce Assistance service usually takes between 30 minutes and two hours depending on the complications of your case. Divorce in Florida does not have a necessary time boundations after the filing of your case, but a judge may choose to continue (delay) your case for up to three months to allow the parties a chance to accommodate. Generally, such a hold up would not happen in an uncontested divorce case.

The only usability to seeking a divorce in Florida is either spouse has to have resided in the state of Florida for at least six months and the marriage must be either irreparably broken or one of the spouses is mentally incompatible. The Florida State will permit you a quick divorce with just a signature as long as there is no property division matter. In most situations if the online Florida divorce is uncontested and all issues involving children, assets and financial responsibility have been worked out between the parties and decided upon beforehand then only one party must show up at the hearing. Mostly uncontested Florida Divorce judge hearings take approximately ten minutes. If any matter arise that become contested then the judge will wish to hear both partners sides and have both present so that he or she may make a fair decree or send the couple to mediatio. If a judge finds it mandatory he may send both spouses to either a marriage counselor or a mediator to help them work out their differences of view on their own. When there are children involved this sometimes makes Florida divorce exacerbates and tempers rise so the necessity for a neutral party is mandatory. In order to teach parents to help their children through this traumatic period it is now a need in online Florida divorce, like most states, to be present at class to help them gain information on helping their child to cope with the loss.



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Dan Copernicus asked:


An uncontested divorce is the only way to go when getting a divorce. For one, you do not need an attorney, the divorce is done in private, and issues can be negotiated 1 on 1. You may need an attorney if you can not make an agreement of every issue you negotiate. Disagreements you should be ready for are the grounds for divorce, payment of family debts, visitation rights, division of the assets of the marriage, child support, alimony, custody of the children, payment of health insurance for the dependent, contribution toward educational expenses, and income tax.

It is important that you negotiate all the issues of the divorce before you file for an uncontested divorce. Uncontested divorces are given an identification number and are considered by the court as an issue that will eventually need trial time in order to resolve problem issues in the divorce. This is because until you two get all the issues of the divorce case negotiated your uncontested divorce is considered a “Contested Divorce”.

When all the issues are negotiated you can then stipulate to the court to have the matters heard as an Uncontested Divorce or “no fault divorce” matter. The court will then expedite the Hearing then they will hear proof of the agreement of the grounds of the divorce. The proper way to prove the grounds of the divorce is with an Uncontested Divorce form. Id highly recommend you to get your form from legalformsbank.biz for your state’s specific up-to-date Uncontested Divorce form. Be aware of sites where you must type in your personal information so they can “generate” your legal form. Not only are you giving someone else your extremely sensitive information that could be used for all kind of identity fraud, your liable to have your money and information taken from hackers who put up legitimate looking sites then disappear off the net without ever giving you your Uncontested Divorce form.



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Athena asked:


Is there anyone who has gone through a child custody case?
What should I expect when going into my hearing for Child custody? I’m very nervous
First the dad states that he is not the father of my child on the child support summons and then a few days later he motions for joint custody and to take my child out of the country.He is from another country.We had mediation where he argued with the mediator because she denied his request to go out of the country and then she recommeded six months of supervised
visitation. I don’t have a lawyer at this point

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Ben Dave asked:


Texas Divorce Records are considered public records in all states although there may be variations in the way they are governed and treated from one state to another. To search divorce records in any of the states, there are basically two options: government or private. Government sources are generally thought to be Free Texas Divorce Records, albeit largely the contrary in Texas while higher expectations are placed upon private ones. Either will work and is a matter of individual preference or situation.

Texas Divorce Records is placed under the Texas Department of State Health Services. Along with Marriage, Birth and Death records, Divorce Records Texas are available through their Vital Statistics Unit and are sectioned under the Report of Divorce Index. They can be downloaded free of charge from the department website and are available to the public. Conditions and procedures apply. About a hundred thousand Texas Divorces since 1968 are on file but the office only issues their Letters of Verification.

A Divorce Letter of Verification from the Vital Statistics Office only states whether or not a divorce was issued in the state of Texas. It contains the names of the divorcing parties, the county where the divorce was granted and the court case number. Fees are $20.00 for a letter. They are considered searching charges and hence not refundable or transferable to another record whether or not a search yields any results. However if a search results in a ‘no record found’, it can be used as proof of single-status (marital). Verification letters are available to divorces that occurred from 1968 to the last day of the year preceding the current one.

Reports of Divorce Indexes were not filed with the State offices until 1968 so Texas Divorce Records before that would have to be obtained from the office of the District Clerk at the county where the divorce happened. Likewise, certified copies of major divorce documents such as Divorce Certificates and Divorce Decrees are only obtainable directly from the office of the specific county of origin.

Texans are a special lot. The reasons behind their search for Texas Divorce Records are varied and flowery. There are also Texans who have resided in multiple states or county prior to Texas. As such, the complete divorce records of these folks will cut across state borders and the various state public record databases are not linked. As a result, employing government agencies for multiple-state divorce record searches becomes unfeasible. That’s why private record providers are the preferred option for Texas Divorce Records Search especially when time and personal bandwidth are a constraint. Their databases typically cover all states.

Commercial record providers are a great relief for a small fee and there are plenty to expect and choose from. Online Divorce Records search is the most popular and not without reasons. It’s convenient, instant and competitively priced but scams abound so shop around a little before committing any fees. Good information and tips are readily found free of charge at review and other promotional sites. These guys know their business and their recommendations are rarely off the mark.



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TDAL asked:


I am in the military and deploying to Afghanistan, My wife lives in a different state,and she is trying to come down to see me for about a month- a month and a half. Her ex is trying to take her to court for child custody to keep her from seeing me. does anyone think that we can change the court date so that she can come and see me, any real help would be nice. thanks

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