Chris asked:


Going through a horrible crisis at the moment. I was divorced from my husband when my son was only a few months old. He was extremely verbally abusive towards me and made some horrible threats during the divorce and child custody fight. After 4 years , we now have tried working things out again and I got pregnant once again (accidentally) .He lives in Florida and me here in NY , doing the long distance thing. Well, it looks like once again, I made the biggest mistake of my life as we can’t be around each other for more than 5 minutes without fighting and screaming at each other and him putting me down and making me look horrible in front of our son. So, now I’m 8 1/2 months pregnant and he’s already making threats that he wants custody and wants the kids to live with him in Florida for at least 6 months out of the year. I’m scared to death and he is a heavy pot smoker and has a horrible horrible temper. I know I need a good lawyer, advice?

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3 Responses to “Horrible crisis, can anyone recommend a good child custody lawyer in Buffalo NY?”

1. lil_green_mm on December 3rd, 2009 8:38 am

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   You don’t really need a good lawyer, trust me! I have been up one side and down the other of the NY family court system (i’m in Rochester) The judge will assign a attorney or a law guardian to your children. This attorney is not chosen by your or your ex but assigned by the court and you do not have to pay this person. The law guardian will visit your home, speak to your child and you. You tell the law guardian your side, show and documents you have, police reports, any documentation from the childrens dr saying the father is possible threat. When you go back to court, the law guardian will report to the judge and a decision will be made. If you do not agree with the decision (or he doesn’t) you will then go to trial. At that point you will need an attorney but you can take the 1st steps without one. And with any luck, he will see that he is not going to get custody and just agree to whatever the judge decides.

   Your FIRST step, if you haven’t already done so, is to go and petition for sole custody. If you do not already have sole custody, he is free to take the kid to FL and you cannot stop him. You would then have to file for emergency custody to bring the kid back to NY. Make sure you tell them when you file that you don’t want him to leave the county with your child and that you fear he will. They may put in a temp. order so that he cannot leave with the child.

   Family court in NY is so cut and dry that you don’t need a attorney. Unless you are a drug user or something, no judge is going to take your children away from you. Good luck to you!

2. melissa s on December 3rd, 2009 10:25 pm

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   i do not care what anyone says, get a lawyer, these are your children, do not take the chance, these are your children, good luck to you

3. Nick on December 4th, 2009 10:23 pm

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   You can submit your issue in the following website and a lawyer will contact you within 24hrs. Don’t worry about their charges, Its only $1/day. So you are getting what you want in just $1. I think this you can afford. Here is the link

   Good luck