Dars asked:


For example if a husband and wife divorce, their kids are constant reminders of their ex. Maybe they have good reasons to really **** their ex. The kids are made from the ex though. They may look and act like the ex. Even if they don’t, they’re constant reminders of a troubled past.

Sometimes there are news stories about people who kill their kids after divorce. Some men go psycho after divorce and kill their (ex) family. Some women meet a new man but the man sees the kids as obstacles, then the woman or man kills the kids.

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6 Responses to “Do kids become less valuable to parents after the parents divorce?”

1. greenjellybean on December 26th, 2009 4:47 pm

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   Most of the time, the biological drive to provide, love and care for their offspring (at least for women) is MUCH stronger than any sort of animosity they would feel towards their ex and therefore their love for their children overrides any potential feelings of dislike by association.
   In the few cases where that’s not how it plays out, those people have problems in the instinctual drive department.

2. military_mummy on December 29th, 2009 6:40 am

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   Where did you get this info?

3. Muffin on January 1st, 2010 5:59 pm

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   Im sorry but thats just weird.

4. timeout on January 2nd, 2010 2:18 am

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   For those people who kill their kids because they see them as being in the way of their new life, (selfish) I hope they rot in hell. Life is precious, and it is not the child’s fault their parents divorced. My kids became more important to me when I divorced, because it is hard on them and they do not understand what is going on. Most kids blame themselves for the divorce. So I took extra time with them and made sure they knew they were loved/

5. Shannon on January 4th, 2010 12:38 am

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   In my psychology classes and my one sociology class in college, there was discussion about parents after divorce. That problem you describe above is rare. However, absent fathers after divorce is not rare and it is very sad. It is a social phenomenon that many fathers of today tend to create a new family with another woman and forget about the role they need to give to the children they already have. It seems as if those particular fathers stayed because of the kids, but that is usually not the case.

6. concernedmom on January 5th, 2010 9:46 am

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   Most dad’s bail after a divorce. They become focused on their new wife and their new family and even the best of dads become terrible. Moms then have to become mom and dad and even when we remarry we always (or at least I do) kids first. Those of you that will thumbs down me are not being real or you are not old enough to have gone through a divorce with kids and seen many friends go through same thing. I can think of 1 dad that is still a good dad. 1! Believe me, it’s not my children’s.